trusting yourself

Are you trusting yourself? Radical Self-Trust Part 2

“This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meaness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain all!  Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.  Be grateful for whomever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.” ~Rumi

Last week I wrote about radical self-trust in terms of learning to trust the voice and the guidance within. Trusting yourself really is an essential part of radical responsibility.  

The other important aspect of radical self-trust is trusting that everything that shows up in our lives is there to inform us, to teach us, and to help move us toward more of who we really are. 

How different would our lives be if we would just embrace our worries, doubts, fears and frustrations as teachers there to inform us of what our next step is?  If we listen to what they are saying to us rather than trying to banish them, we can then learn from them, thank them and release them, and move into the next best version of ourselves.  This is so much easier than fighting with them and trying to exile them.  

When we radically trust ourselves, we see every experience in our lives an important part of the natural unfolding of ourselves toward our highest good.  The truth is that our most painful experiences are often the most necessary in terms of our learning and growing toward the ultimate fulfillment of who we really are.

Take the time to look to any worries, fears, or doubts and any painful experience as messengers with important information.   Sit with them in meditation, ask your higher self for guidance and allow yourself to receive what you need from whatever you’re going through.  Any psychological state that we don’t want to be in has its gift if we simply befriend it rather than pushing it away.  Staying receptive and befriending whatever we’re feeling, will allow us to hear what it has to say.  Only then can we release it and move forward with the insight we have gained.

Why not take a vow of radical self-trust right now?  Decide to have faith in all of your experiences and trust even the painful states of mind you may find yourself in.  Befriend all that comes your way as a beloved teacher.  From this place of radical self-trust, you will find that you can move through anything more quickly, easily and gracefully.  And we gain so much more from accepting rather than fighting whatever it is that shows up in our lives.

Love and blessings,


Radical Self Trust

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” Goethe

“When I’m trusting and being myself… everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily, often miraculously. ~Shakti Gawain

Today’s topic is one dear to my heart because it took me so many years to get to the point of trusting myself–and even now, some days I revert back to trusting others over myself.  I’ve written before about taking radical responsibility for our lives–how everything that shows up is revealing who we are being in the world.  These two–radical responsibility and radical self trust are intimately connected.  When we take radical responsibility for everything that shows up in our experience, we also must trust ourselves completely.  

One of my students asked the other night how we can distinguish between our higher self speaking to us during meditation and some other voice.  Another student then offered that when she used to run in marathon training, she would get into a zone–not unlike meditation–and all sorts of answers to various “problems” in her life would come to her.  And she would recognize these things as exactly what she needed.

This student’s experience is a great example of how information can come to us when we quiet our mind in some form of meditation.  Her experience also suggests that when we get information from our Higher Self in meditation or in everyday life, we will often recognize it as such.  But that is not always the case.  Sometimes what comes to us may make no logical sense to us at all, but we just have to trust that if it came during meditation and we were looking for an answer, it is coming from our Higher Self.  “Ask and thou shalt receive.”

When we receive information during meditation and when we are asking form guidance, we need to follow it–even if it seems crazy to our logical mind.  Years ago when I was closing my business and not sure of my “next step,” I asked for guidance to come to me during my morning meditation and I got a very specific answer: “Medical Sales.”  I looked upward and asked, “Say WHAT?”  I had no medical background and had in fact never considered a career in any medical field.  However, I had learned to trust what comes in meditation as indeed information from the Divine or my Higher Self (whatever one wishes to call it).

It was through listening to that information that I applied for a job with the man who is now my husband.  I worked with him for a couple of years–it was not really “the job” that my Higher Self was leading me to however–it was something much greater–my soul mate and the love of my life.

Start today to ask your Higher Self for guidance. Before you sit down to meditate or go on that five mile run, ask that you receive what you need to know regarding whatever you’re struggling with or whatever you need a little guidance on.
And then listen and trust what comes.

There is another important component of Radical Self Trust, so more next week on this important topic.

Until then, love your self and your life, every moment!

Love and blessings,


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