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Begin at the end

A coach that I worked with a few years ago encouraged me to make a list of 25 things I had accomplished in the past year.  It was interesting that the first things that came to my mind were things I hadn’t finished or even started.  But as I got quiet and really thought about the year, many things I had accomplished began to surface.

I had finished a coaching program, designed my website, started my newsletter and gone on an amazing spiritual retreat with my husband.  Once I began to look at what I had accomplished, it was easy to see more.  I also had things on my list like, cultivating my friendships, taking sailing classes and chartering a sailboat in the Caribbean.  I realized that our accomplishments in life are about more than our to-do list.  Our accomplishments also include taking the time to love people and have fun.  Sometimes our most important accomplishments are those that were not on our goal list at the first of the year.  Life is much more organic and to experience it fully, we must we open to Divine Guidance.

Now, at the end of each year, I take the time to do this exercise.  Then I take the time to meditate on my vision for the coming year.  I try to imagine and feel those things I know I want to accomplish.  Then I let myself be open to that Divine Guidance, to see what might come to me that I hadn’t already been planning.  And finally as I begin to live the year, I let the Divine or whatever we want to call the creative energy that so magically orchestrates this universe, guide me so that ultimately, I am led by something greater than my own individual vision.  When we co-create with the Divine, our lives open up in ways that we might not have ever dreamed of on our own.

With all your final to-do lists for the holiday, find some time before the new year to make your list of the 25 things you accomplished in 2012.  Acknowledge yourself for things big and small; sometimes our greatest accomplishments are all the small things that add up.   Then it will be time to start thinking about what the new year brings.

For me, I see myself continuing to evolve my live and online LOA and coaching programs.  And to evolve in my new (ad)venture with my husband of helping people through combining neurofeedback and LOA coaching.  For my art this year, my goal also is to paint a lot and from a deep and joyful place.

Happy Holidays everyone and I hope this year brings you all the love and joy your hearts can hold!

Love and blessings~

Pamela

 

 

Radical Self Trust

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” Goethe


“When I’m trusting and being myself… everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily, often miraculously. ~Shakti Gawain

Today’s topic is one dear to my heart because it took me so many years to get to the point of trusting myself–and even now, some days I revert back to trusting others over myself.  I’ve written before about taking radical responsibility for our lives–how everything that shows up is revealing who we are being in the world.  These two–radical responsibility and radical self trust are intimately connected.  When we take radical responsibility for everything that shows up in our experience, we also must trust ourselves completely.  

One of my students asked the other night how we can distinguish between our higher self speaking to us during meditation and some other voice.  Another student then offered that when she used to run in marathon training, she would get into a zone–not unlike meditation–and all sorts of answers to various “problems” in her life would come to her.  And she would recognize these things as exactly what she needed.

This student’s experience is a great example of how information can come to us when we quiet our mind in some form of meditation.  Her experience also suggests that when we get information from our Higher Self in meditation or in everyday life, we will often recognize it as such.  But that is not always the case.  Sometimes what comes to us may make no logical sense to us at all, but we just have to trust that if it came during meditation and we were looking for an answer, it is coming from our Higher Self.  “Ask and thou shalt receive.”

When we receive information during meditation and when we are asking form guidance, we need to follow it–even if it seems crazy to our logical mind.  Years ago when I was closing my business and not sure of my “next step,” I asked for guidance to come to me during my morning meditation and I got a very specific answer: “Medical Sales.”  I looked upward and asked, “Say WHAT?”  I had no medical background and had in fact never considered a career in any medical field.  However, I had learned to trust what comes in meditation as indeed information from the Divine or my Higher Self (whatever one wishes to call it).

It was through listening to that information that I applied for a job with the man who is now my husband.  I worked with him for a couple of years–it was not really “the job” that my Higher Self was leading me to however–it was something much greater–my soul mate and the love of my life.

Start today to ask your Higher Self for guidance. Before you sit down to meditate or go on that five mile run, ask that you receive what you need to know regarding whatever you’re struggling with or whatever you need a little guidance on.
And then listen and trust what comes.

There is another important component of Radical Self Trust, so more next week on this important topic.

Until then, love your self and your life, every moment!

Love and blessings,

Pamela

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