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Trusing Your Inner Guidance

In my Law of Attraction courses, I teach a lot about learning to trust that everything is on track for our receiving what we most want.   The secret to mastering trust in the unfolding of our lives comes from learning to trust ourselves.  To learn to trust ourselves, we have to have a practice that allows us to tune in, to quiet our mind enough so that we can actually hear our inner guidance.   After we hear it, then we must trust what we receive. When we disregard that voice inside that knows, we are not trusting ourselves.

I see it so often in my work: people know but they don’t listen. They ask, “Should I marry this man?  I’m just not sure.”  Or “Should I take this job?” The answer is in the asking.  There must be a voice saying, “no”, or they wouldn’t be questioning moving forward in the relationship or the job.  If we are saying YES to a partner, it should be a resounding yes that we say with all our heart and soul, not a “yes” tinged with hesitancy that is really a “no” that we won’t allow ourselves to acknowledge.  There is always that little voice inside you that knows.  When we get in confusion about anything, it’s because we are not tuned into that voice.  Sometimes it’s just that we really don’t want to acknowledge the truth that we know.  This is the denial of our inner voice.   Other times it may be that we just won’t be quiet enough to hear it.

Our sixth sense is real, and can naturally perceive and know things that our logical minds cannot.  It is that aspect of your soul that is connected to the Field, the Divine, that is privy to all sorts of information and resources that you in your particle self are not.  This voice will guide you to your heart’s desire, it will forewarn you, but you can only hear it if you are taking the time to listen.

The key is to practice meditation or quiet reflective time daily to tune into that guidance on a regular basis and then listen to it every time.  Using a heart meditation is very effective since being in our heart makes us more connected and more open to receive guidance.  The more you practice meditation and/or quiet reflection, the easier it will be to tune in and receive guidance not just while you’re in meditation but all the time.  And the more you learn to trust your inner voice and guidance, the clearer the messages from your intuitive self become.

A SIMPLE HEART MEDITATION YOU CAN USE TO OPEN YOUR HEART:

As you sit to meditate focus on the breath.  Inhale and exhale deeply for a few breaths.  Allow your shoulders to relax away from your ears.  Relax your jaw and your tongue.  Start to breath imagining the breath coming in through the third chakra, located at the upper abdomen (solar plexus) and feel any tension there.  Exhale, imagining the breath coming out throught the heart chakra–located in the center of the breast bone–opening the heart.  Keep that focus on the breath, inhaling each time feeling any tension in your third chakra and on the exhale, releasing the tension and imagining the heart chakra opening more and more with each exhale.  As you do this meditation you should be able to open your heart and get into a state of love and compassion.  Once you’re in this state, allow answers and guidance to emerge naturally.  You may, if you wish, begin your meditation by asking for guidance if there is something specific you are wanting to be clear about.

In my own life, I was guided to my husband, the love of my life, because I asked, “What’s next?” when I was closing my business years ago.  The answer was “medical sales,” something I had no background in at all.  But I knew to listen to the guidance and went onto Career Builder applied for four jobs, interviewed for three, got job offers from two, one of which was my husband, who knew immediately I was the love of his life.  We had only had one phone conversation and he knew that he had to hire me.  His assistant tried to get him to consider the many applicants with medical background.  But he interviewed no one else for the position.  He was attuned and listening to his inner guidance too.  Within two months of working together, we were together!   It was not about “the job” as I only did that for a short time before I began my coaching training.  It was about the Divine leading both of us to each other.

You will be astounded at how powerful it is and what you can manifest with effortless effort when you live this way.  It is this that truly allows us to listen and hear our inner voice and guidance.  If you regularly sit with this simple meditation, you will become attuned to all sorts of information that you would otherwise miss.  You will at times not know exactly why you have to a particular place or avoid a particular person.  You will just know.  When we live attuned to our inner voice and trusting our inner guidance, everything becomes easier.  We can more easily attract what we need into our lives and live with more peace and joy.  We stay out of confusion and indecisiveness because we know how to tune in and listen.

My challenge for you is to do this heart meditation every day for a month and watch your connection to your own inner guidance increase.  Watch as you begin to trust your own inner voice more and more.  I guarantee you won’t want to stop after 30 days.

The Field really is on our side; all we have to do is tune in and listen!

Have a wonderful amazing week!

Love and blessings,

Pamela

Important Relationship Tips

There are two parts to this newsletter:  Part One contains tips for people who already have a relationship but are looking for ways to improve it and Part Two is for those who are not in a relationship but want to attract their perfect partner.

PART ONE:  IF YOU ALREADY HAVE A RELATIONSHIP:
If your relationship is one you treasure and are happy you’re in, congratulations!  If you are like me, you are always open to new ideas and ways that you can make your already good relationship great or great relationship even more wonderful.  So here are three simple tips, and I guarantee you that you will improve the quality of your relationship if you do them–or even start with one of them.

1)   Ask yourself very regularly what you could do to improve the quality of your relationship.  Rather than focusing on what you want, what you need, what you aren’t getting enough of, focus on the other person and ask, What can I do to be a better partner, lover, wife, husband, etc.

2)  Every night take a few minutes to imagine anything that represents to you having a wonderful relationship or an even more wonderful relationship if you already have a great one (everything can always be better, right!?).  Just let your imagination go and get into the feelings of having an amazing relationship.  Go to sleep with these thoughts and feelings.

3)  If there are problems–or a problem area–in your relationship–be sure you do tips 1 and 2 also, but also take time each morning to lie in bed just after you wake up and imagine a relationship in which those specifics that you are not happy with do not exist.  Project yourself into the future with your partner and imagine that these things are no longer part of the dynamic.  Let your imagination go and get into the feelings of those negatives no longer being there.  How does it feel?  Relish in it.  Get lost in the feelings of happiness at being in a relationship that has more of what you want and no longer has the hurtful or frustrating parts.

IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP

In a culture where we’ve been spoon fed instant gratification, it’s easy to want to find a partner quickly, too.  People search the Internet, attend networking groups, and even go to the supermarket in search for Mr./Ms Right.  What most people don’t realize is that there is a way to have that instant gratification of the perfect partner right now, without ever logging on to the Internet or searching anywhere–except inside their own heart.

Here are three tips to help you in manifesting your perfect partner.

1)  Be willing to accept the primary principle of the Law of Attraction, which is very simply that you can have anything you want as long as you have to already have it. It’s a paradox like everything that seems to be profoundly true about our universe.  But there is a way to already have it:  you have to have it in consciousness.   So here’s what you can do:  Imagine that you have the perfect partner and what that would feel like.  Really get lost in how that would feel and what that would look like.  Then, keep your focus and concern on your own inner world, imagining that you do already have it.  
Live from this place.  (BTW: I teach many techniques about HOW to do this in my courses.)

2)  Stop Looking!  I recently read a quotation somewhere that said, “I never met anyone who found their perfect partner when they were looking.”  What this really implies is that you have to release your grip on your desire.  Concern yourself with YOU.  Work on yourself and making yourself the very best you can be.  Completely release the “looking” part; leave that up to the Universe.  Know that the Field/Universe/God will bring you your perfect partner in perfect time, while at the same time, feeling it is already done (that was Tip #1, right!?).

3)  Fall in love with yourself and your life; have a love affair with yourself.  Do the things that bring you joy.  When you are in a state of love and joy, that’s what you attract.

Good luck with these.  Let me know your thoughts by posting a comment.  Or if you have other things that have worked for you, I would love to hear them.  Share them below in the comments.  And if you have any questions, post those, too.  I am happy to answer them–or try to anyways!

Have a wonderful amazing week.

Love and blessings,
Pamela

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