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I have been so engrossed in living life and living passionately that I haven’t sent out a newsletter in some time. I want to share with you my own manifestation story to inspire you to follow your heart and your dreams.

Many of you know how much I love to paint. Well it seemed the more energy I put into teaching my Law of Attraction courses, the more my art took off. Applying all the techniques I teach is very powerful: this stuff really works! I have sold more paintings since November than I did the previous three years combined!

So as my art has taken off, I have been spending more time on my art and facilitating online programs rather than teaching the live courses that I love so much but that take so much time and energy.

It has meant so much to me to see my own dream of being an artist manifest. I have always been a teacher. That was easy for me. But even though I have always been artistic, I had many doubts that I was an artist or could actually be a working artist. l had lots of doubts along the way.

I think living my dream teaching Law of Attraction really helped me because as I teach the concepts and techniques, I am constantly reminded to practice what I teach. It has always been important to me to live my own teachings as best I can. How can i expect my students to do things if I’m not willing to be disciplined myself.

So it’s through this work, applying all that I know about LOA, that I have been able to manifest my artistic vision. I am thrilled to say that this stuff really works!

So if you have a dream you’re trying to manifest, whether it be attracting the love of your life or anything else, I invite you to use the LOA techniques for 90 days and watch how your life begins to change. Keep going after the 90 days! And of course that will be easy since you will be convinced at that point that this DOES work to change your reality.

I would invite you also to invest in one of my programs; this will give you many LOA secrets and tips to apply every day to speed up the process. If you invest in yourself and practice the techniques I teach in these programs, you will see shifts in your life as the universe shifts to correspond to the new you.

I am available for one-on-one coaching and my courses are all available online. You can purchase the course by itself or along with coaching. I would love to work with you and help you manifest your dreams, too.

Love and blessings to you all and thank you all for appreciating the work I do. It is dear to my heart and so are you all!

Pamela

Say, “I Love You,” with a Little More Heart This Valentine’s Day!

Valentine’s Day is rapidly approaching. It’s best not to wait until the last minute to decide what to do for your special someone. Otherwise, you’ll end up doing the same old thing. Not that there’s anything wrong with the standard: dinner, flowers, card and chocolates. But why not put a little more heart into it and make your loved one feel extra special and adored? Remember, it’s the gifts that require time and imagination and that come from the heart that say the most. Following are some ideas that are simple and cost very little, but they say so much because they require more from you besides your money; they require your whole heart–or at least a little piece of it!

1) SURPRISE DATE: Give your lover a card and state that you’ve planned a surprise date, something they will know nothing about except how to dress. You plan everything and do all the work. If you feel like really making a statement commit to planning a surprise date for your love once a month for the entire year! Try to make the dates something unique that you and your lover haven’t experienced before or at least something very special. Ideas: an elaborate picnic in a special location; an overnight trip to a town you haven’t been to before; the opera; his/her favorite performer in concert; a picnic at sunset on a secluded beach; a couple’s workshop. The ideas are endless. A wonderful idea is to give each other this gift and take turns; one month you plan everything and the next month your partner does. You can even blindfold your partner while driving to the destination!

2) LOVE NOTES: Buy a pretty box and put it by your lover’s bedside. Give a card to your lover that says your gift will be 365 love notes, one each day for the next year. Find a package of assorted scraps of beautiful paper in the scrapbook section of your local craft store or go to a scrapbook specialty store. Provo Craft has a large package for under $15 called, “Paper Palette: Hand Crafted Paper by Artisans,” which is a wonderful assortment of romantic paper in various sizes. These so called “scraps” are the perfect for love notes and letters. Also be sure to use colored gel pens of various colors to pen your love letters. Then each night for the entire year, put a love note in the box. Your partner will “check the mail” each night in anticipation. What a treat to read your sweet, loving, sexy, creative love note on a different kind of paper each night. I did this for my husband year before last, and I have to say it became a wonderful bedtime ritual. He even began writing love notes to me and placing them on my pillow! It’s now become a fun thing we do to surprise each other now and then. But it is wonderful to do it every day for a year. Even if it’s after a squabble, it’s a great opportunity to apologize and say, “I love you,” and it insures that you don’t go to bed angry.

3) LOVE LETTER: Nothing says, “I love you,” quite like a romantic love letter. Write a long, expressive love letter to your lover on a beautiful piece of stationery. You might sprat your perfume on the paper. Women, not only sign it with your name, but with a kiss wearing your favorite lipstick. Mail it a few days before Valentine’s Day so that your lover receives it on time, but write on it, “Don’t Open Until Valentine’s Day.”

4) FLOWERS: Give the gift of one beautiful flower for your lover every day for 365 days. If this seems like too big of a big commitment, try doing it for just do it for one month. Or perhaps on the 14th of each month this year, you could bring your lover a beautiful bouquet.

5) HOMEMADE CARD: Make a homemade Valentine. Buy romantic paper, find some gold hearts, ribbon or lace. Use gel pens, paints or colored pencils. Use your imagination and have fun!

6) SERENADE: Make a tape singing a love song to your lover. You can find a local studio that will record it for you and even provide you with the music. OR just sing a cappella and do it at home.

7) POETRY: Compose a poem for your lover on beautiful paper. You can even write it in calligraphy. (Or, you can cheat and use stencils or pens that give the look of calligraphy.) Another idea is to use your computer and print it out with fancy type. You can even frame it. If you’re not much of a writer, try using a famous poet’s love poem. Some poets of famous love poetry include, Edna St. Vincent Millay, Robert Browning, Elizabeth Browning, John Dunne, Kahlil Gibran, Rainer Maria Rilke, and Pablo Neruda

8) TOUCH:  Give the gift of touch by giving your partner a one or two-hour massage. Set the room with a scented candle and meditative, relaxing music. Use sensuous oil and make sure you get every single spot of your lover: from the earlobes to between the toes.

9) BUBBLE BATH: Take a long, sensuous bubble bath with your lover. Be sure to set the ambience: light a candle or two (or twenty ) and have some romantic music playing; put some lavender, jasmine or any favorite essential oil in the bath. You might decide to forgo the bubbles and use rose petals instead. Once you’re in the tub, serve your lover: Wash your lover’s hair and entire body, and, well, use your imagination! 10) COLLAGE: Take photos from the last year and make a collage. Collecting your favorite memories into a collage, framing and hanging it doesn’t take that much time but think of the joy that will be added to your lives every time you look at it. Your lover will appreciate the gift all through the year.

11) MAKE A LIST: Using beautiful paper, list all of the things that you love about your lover, all that you appreciate, even the little things. Consider framing it.

The gifts people remember most are those given from the heart. They aren’t necessarily the most expensive, but they require the most investment from the giver. Gifts that require thought, creativity, planning; gifts that last all year; and things made by you speak a lot more deeply to your lover’s heart than dinner and a box of chocolates. And remember, the most important thing is to be romantic and have fun!

Here’s to you having the best Valentine’s Day ever!

Trusing Your Inner Guidance

In my Law of Attraction courses, I teach a lot about learning to trust that everything is on track for our receiving what we most want.   The secret to mastering trust in the unfolding of our lives comes from learning to trust ourselves.  To learn to trust ourselves, we have to have a practice that allows us to tune in, to quiet our mind enough so that we can actually hear our inner guidance.   After we hear it, then we must trust what we receive. When we disregard that voice inside that knows, we are not trusting ourselves.

I see it so often in my work: people know but they don’t listen. They ask, “Should I marry this man?  I’m just not sure.”  Or “Should I take this job?” The answer is in the asking.  There must be a voice saying, “no”, or they wouldn’t be questioning moving forward in the relationship or the job.  If we are saying YES to a partner, it should be a resounding yes that we say with all our heart and soul, not a “yes” tinged with hesitancy that is really a “no” that we won’t allow ourselves to acknowledge.  There is always that little voice inside you that knows.  When we get in confusion about anything, it’s because we are not tuned into that voice.  Sometimes it’s just that we really don’t want to acknowledge the truth that we know.  This is the denial of our inner voice.   Other times it may be that we just won’t be quiet enough to hear it.

Our sixth sense is real, and can naturally perceive and know things that our logical minds cannot.  It is that aspect of your soul that is connected to the Field, the Divine, that is privy to all sorts of information and resources that you in your particle self are not.  This voice will guide you to your heart’s desire, it will forewarn you, but you can only hear it if you are taking the time to listen.

The key is to practice meditation or quiet reflective time daily to tune into that guidance on a regular basis and then listen to it every time.  Using a heart meditation is very effective since being in our heart makes us more connected and more open to receive guidance.  The more you practice meditation and/or quiet reflection, the easier it will be to tune in and receive guidance not just while you’re in meditation but all the time.  And the more you learn to trust your inner voice and guidance, the clearer the messages from your intuitive self become.

A SIMPLE HEART MEDITATION YOU CAN USE TO OPEN YOUR HEART:

As you sit to meditate focus on the breath.  Inhale and exhale deeply for a few breaths.  Allow your shoulders to relax away from your ears.  Relax your jaw and your tongue.  Start to breath imagining the breath coming in through the third chakra, located at the upper abdomen (solar plexus) and feel any tension there.  Exhale, imagining the breath coming out throught the heart chakra–located in the center of the breast bone–opening the heart.  Keep that focus on the breath, inhaling each time feeling any tension in your third chakra and on the exhale, releasing the tension and imagining the heart chakra opening more and more with each exhale.  As you do this meditation you should be able to open your heart and get into a state of love and compassion.  Once you’re in this state, allow answers and guidance to emerge naturally.  You may, if you wish, begin your meditation by asking for guidance if there is something specific you are wanting to be clear about.

In my own life, I was guided to my husband, the love of my life, because I asked, “What’s next?” when I was closing my business years ago.  The answer was “medical sales,” something I had no background in at all.  But I knew to listen to the guidance and went onto Career Builder applied for four jobs, interviewed for three, got job offers from two, one of which was my husband, who knew immediately I was the love of his life.  We had only had one phone conversation and he knew that he had to hire me.  His assistant tried to get him to consider the many applicants with medical background.  But he interviewed no one else for the position.  He was attuned and listening to his inner guidance too.  Within two months of working together, we were together!   It was not about “the job” as I only did that for a short time before I began my coaching training.  It was about the Divine leading both of us to each other.

You will be astounded at how powerful it is and what you can manifest with effortless effort when you live this way.  It is this that truly allows us to listen and hear our inner voice and guidance.  If you regularly sit with this simple meditation, you will become attuned to all sorts of information that you would otherwise miss.  You will at times not know exactly why you have to a particular place or avoid a particular person.  You will just know.  When we live attuned to our inner voice and trusting our inner guidance, everything becomes easier.  We can more easily attract what we need into our lives and live with more peace and joy.  We stay out of confusion and indecisiveness because we know how to tune in and listen.

My challenge for you is to do this heart meditation every day for a month and watch your connection to your own inner guidance increase.  Watch as you begin to trust your own inner voice more and more.  I guarantee you won’t want to stop after 30 days.

The Field really is on our side; all we have to do is tune in and listen!

Have a wonderful amazing week!

Love and blessings,

Pamela

Five Secrets to Successfully Using the Law of Attraction to Manifest What you Want in Your Life

“We have to thank our partners our friends, everyone who shows up in our lives.  They are telling us what we believe about ourselves and showing us who we are being in the world.”  PRTatum

SECRET # 1:  RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY:  ACCEPT–100% RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR EXPERIENCES. The first secret is very basic to Law of Attraction practice, but one so many people overlook it or even deny.  We must accept radical responsibility–that is 100% responsibility–for what we experience, even when it appears to be the will of others or external conditions.

SECRET # 2:  UNDERSTAND THAT OUR DESIRES ARE NOT CREATIVE.  So what is?  Our consciousness.  And deep in our consciousness is our intentions, our beliefs and what we identify with.  OUR BELIEFS & IDENTITY INTENTIONS are creating our reality.  These can be conscious or unconscious.  Unfortunately people unconsciously intend all the time  and then have things show up in their lives and wonder, HOW DID I CREATE THIS?

SECRET # 3:  KNOW WHAT HAS TO CHANGE IS US.  We must change ourselves–at the level of consciousness in order to change what’s showing up in our lives.  We have to dig deep to discover our unconscious beliefs and identity intentions and then begin to replace them with conscious beliefs and intentions.  We don’t seek to change anything in the world, but instead, we change ourselves.  As the great Confucius wrote,“Great is the man who can overcome the world, but greater still is the man who can overcome himself, for he will have the world spinning on the palm of his hand.” 

SECRET # 4:  ALLOW THINGS TO HAPPEN RATHER THAN WILLING THEM TO HAPPEN.  We can run around the world trying to force this or tackle that to the ground, visualizing, chanting affirmations, etc. but usually we are met with failure.  Even our successes we achieve this way are short-lived.  Allowing is irresistible to the Universe.  When we move out of a state of suffering–trying to tackle everything we want to the ground–into a state of willingness, nonresistance, and peace, we experience a sense of joy.  Then the universe simply corresponds to who we are.

SECRET # 5:  THE LAW OF ATTRACTION IS NOT JUST A THEORY; IT REQUIRES PRACTICE.   It’s not enough to understand the basics of law of attraction theory.  We must practice it in a moment-by-moment way of deliberate creating.  (And BTW this LOA theory is supported by the New Physics, which you will learn about if you take my course.)

Most of us have spent our lives believing that the world is cause and we are its effect.  The new paradigm requires a shift in consciousness, where we transcend that belief and come to understand that evidence doesn’t show us what to believe, we believe and therefore we see the evidence.

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If you would like to learn ALL the secrets of the Law of Attraction, learn how to practice CONSCIOUS INTENDING on a daily basis, learn to uncover your unconscious self-limiting beliefs and identity intentions and re intend consciously what you truly want and receive it, please come join me for this powerful course.  I guarantee it will ROCK YOUR WORLD.

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  • How and why the Law of Attraction works and how to use it to attract whatever you want in your life.
  • How to identify AND replace unconscious beliefs and identity intentions that are holding you back.  Those are the roadblocks preventing you from having what you want in your life.
  • How to become a conscious creator in every staging area of your life
  • How to stop letting past hurts or traumas hold you back
  • What you can have what you want in your life now!

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During this course you can work on any or all of life’s four main staging areas:  Love & Relationship,  Money & Abundance,  Life Direction, Health & Wellness.  You will learn what LOA really is and how to practice it to receive the benefits.  You will have the added support of others on the same journey which is very powerful. You will receive individual assistance from Pamela during class if you want it.   You will also receive email support from Pamela and lots of love!This course is going to show you how to attract what you want, who you want, effortlessly!

I look forward to seeing you there!

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Pamela

The Healing Power of Love

“Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything and love is all there is.”  Gary Zukov

Today I want to talk to you about the healing power of love.  I know that many of you already know first hand how healing love can be, but did you know that there is scientific research to prove it?

Well there is.  A growing amount of scientific research supports that love and intimacy are amazingly healing and, in fact, are more important in healing than any other factor.   World-renowned physician, researcher and author, Dean Ornish, M.D.,has been a leading contributor to this body of research.  In this his book, Love and Survival:  The Scientific Basis for the Healing Power of Intimacy, he writes, “I am not aware of any other factor in medicine that has a greater impact on our survival than the healing power of love and intimacy. Not diet, not smoking, not exercise, not stress, not genetics, not drugs, not surgery.”

It’s not just romantic love relationships that can be healing:  all relationships have the potential power to heal, but there is something unique about love relationships in that they can blast our hearts wide open and therefore have the power to transform us emotionally and spiritually.  

We’re all familiar with the highs of new romance:  our neurotransmitters are dancing and we are high on love.  We become more open and vulnerable at this time and can have experiences which allow us to open more to who we really are.  We are glimpsing the divine in each other, and that has the powerful effect of allowing us to feel the divine in ourselves.

What happens, however, is that as the new wears off and the neurotransmitters in our brain calm down, we begin to find fault with our partner.  The partner we once projected all our light upon we now begin to project our darkness.  Buttons get pushed, old unresolved issues are activated, and hearts begin to close little by little, one disappointed moment after another.  This living unconsciously and projecting our stuff onto our partner is how potentially great relationships are destroyed or made mediocre or barely endurable every day.   It is possible, however, for couples to grow in their love and commitment after the attraction phase ends and they move into the attachment phase. YES IT IS POSSIBLE!!!

After the attraction phase, when we move into the attachment phase of a relationship, different hormones are produced in the brain.  And for those who don’t get scared and run away or allow themselves to let the fighting take over and ruin their love, this is when the deeper healing can begin.  When you feel you’re in a relationship that’s healthy and that will endure, you feel safe to be more vulnerable.  The layers upon layers of those old wounds begin to peel away allowing you to open up to deeper and deeper parts of yourself.  Both partners can experience profound healing when this kind of intimacy is achieved.    

If  we do our own inner work and learn to live in our hearts, then when the new wears off,  we can actually experience a deepening of our love as the projections fade and are replaced by a clearer sense of who we are and who our partner is.   A truer, deeper intimacy develops when we stay committed to nurturing our relationship and allowing it to grow and become richer.

The two most important thing we can do to experience the true healing power of intimacy is to learn to live in the hearts and learn to resolve conflicts peacefully and respectfully–which I have written much about in the past month.  This is truly what it takes.

By living in your heart you will avoid getting into the old reactive battles common to many couples, and instead, you will be able to handle conflicts from a place of love.  You will be able to help each other heal rather than wounding each other more deeply.  And this healing leads to each partner blossoming into more of who they really are.

Love and blessings,
Pamela

P.S.   I hope you are getting excited about my  90 Days to Transformation program. It’s coming VERY SOON!  April 25th to be exact. This is a program designed to help you have those shifts that need and want to make, the ones that are going to put you on a trajectory to happiness and fulfillment.   Stay tuned for more details.

An Invitation: Shift to Love

“You live that you may learn to love.  You love that you may learn to live.  No other lesson is required of Man.” ~Mikhail Naimy, The Book of Mirdad

For the next few weeks, I am going to be making invitations to you.  I will be sharing with you some changes that I’ve made in my life recently that I thought were small but that have actually ended up being huge. 

If you would like to commit to a change, please share in the Comments section below my blog here.  It will help you stay committed if you write it, declare it and say, I am committed to this practice.  I also encourage you to invite your friends to participate. Invite them by simply by forwarding them the link to my blog or post it to your Facebook so that many get the opportunity to join in to these small but important practices that can change their life.

TODAY’S INVITATION View every person that you encounter as the most important person in the world for that moment, and send them love.

WHY COMMIT:  The most important point we can learn in how the Law of Attraction works is that we get what we are in the world.  And we all want more love, since more love means more happiness, more abundance, more joy, more expansion into who we really are.  So doesn’t it make sense to practice being love in the world?  Yes, of course it does!

DETAILS:  Starting today, regard every person who crosses your path as important, valuable and significant.  Whether it’s the woman at the post office or the man bagging your groceries.  Look at them in the eyes and value them.  Smile at them; send them love.  See their value as another human being on the planet.  You may ask, “Even the person who cuts me off in traffic?”  And I say, yes.  Even that person.  Of course you can’t look them in the eyes, but rather than cursing or flicking them off in your mind or for real, send them some love.  

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I began this project just three short weeks ago.  I can tell you that in general, I just feel better, happier and lighter.  My life seems to be flowing more naturally.  I smile more.  I feel more connected to people.  I actually feel more love for people.  Focusing on consciously being this force of love and light in the world has made me feel more loved, too, because when you are giving love, you are receiving it. 

Have I been perfect every time?  No.  Occasionally, I’m distracted and forget to pay attention.  It happened more early on, but after you catch yourself a few times, it becomes easier to just “be” that way with every person every time.  And even then, we will still stumble.  We will find ourselves sleep walking again, not paying attention to who is in front of us to love.  That’s okay because afterward, we will recognize it and be more conscious next time.  Give yourself permission to be perfect in your attempt to do something small but monumental.  You don’t have to be perfect in the implementation. 

Congratulate yourself for your wins.  And review your day and think of how many people you may have touched when you really looked at them, really listened to them, treated them with a little more love and respect than perhaps they are used to.

Attempting to live every day like this is at first a challenge, but then it just becomes fun because it just feels so darn wonderful!  Good luck and I hope to read your comments here on how this change affects you and your life.

Love and blessings,

Pamela

Valentine’s Day Ideas: 11 Ways to Rock His or Her World

Happy February!  The love-fest month is here…  

Valentine’s Day is rapidly approaching… As you’re thinking of gift ideas, remember that gifts requiring time and imagination and that come from the heart say the most.  So this year, why not say, “I Love You,” with a little more heart by infusing your gift with some creative sparkle.  Here are simple ideas, most of which cost very little, but they say so much because they require more from you besides your money; they require your whole heart–or at least a little piece of it!

1) PLAN A SURPRISE DATE: Plan a surprise date. Then give your lover a card that tells only the day, time and how to dress; everything else is kept secret.  If you feel like really making a statement commit to planning a surprise date once a month for the entire year!   Try to make the date(s) unique, things that we hadn’t done before.  It’s a great way to have new experiences together, which is uber important for keeping the relationship fresh and fun!

Ideas: A picnic (elaborate or simple) in a special location; an overnight trip to a town you haven’t been to before; his/her favorite performer in concert; a couple’s workshop.  The ideas are endless.  A wonderful idea–which my husband and I did one year, is to give each other this gift and take turns; one month you plan everything and the next month your partner does. You can even blindfold your partner while driving to the destination.

2) A YEAR OF SWEET SOMETHINGS:  Give your lover a card explaining that your gift will be 365 love notes, one each day for the entire year.  Buy a pretty box and place it by your lover’s bedside.  Find a package of assorted scraps of beautiful paper in the scrapbook section of your local craft store or go to a scrapbook specialty store.  These so called “scraps” are the perfect for love notes and letters.)  You can also use colored gel pens of various colors to pen your love letters.

Each night for the entire year, you will put a love note in the box. Your partner will “check the mail” each night in anticipation. What a treat to read your sweet, loving, sexy, creative love note on a different kind of paper each night!  

I did this for my husband a few years ago, and I have to say it became a wonderful bedtime ritual.  He even began writing love notes to me and placing them on my pillow!

3) YOUR YEAR IN COLLAGE:  Take photos from the last year and make a collage.  Collecting your favorite memories into a collage, framing and hanging it doesn’t take that much time, but think of the joy that will be added to your lives every time you look at it.  Your lover will appreciate the gift all through the year.

4) FUN WITH FLOWERS: Give the gift of one beautiful flower for your lover every day for 365 days. If this seems like too big of a big commitment, try doing it for just do it for one month. Or perhaps on your anniversary day each month, you could bring your lover a beautiful bouquet.



5) MAKE A HANDMADE CARD:  Make a homemade Valentine. Buy romantic paper, find some gold hearts, ribbon or lace.   Use gel pens, paints or colored pencils.  Use your imagination and have fun!



6) SERENADE YOUR LOVER: Make a tape singing a love song to your lover. You can find a local studio that will record it for you and even provide you with the music. OR just sing a cappella and do it at home.

7) INSPIRED POETRY: Compose a poem for your lover on beautiful paper. You can even write it in calligraphy. (Or, you can cheat and use pens that give the look of calligraphy.)  Another idea is to use your computer and print it out with fancy type.  You can get more fancy and frame it.  If you’re not much of a writer, try using a famous poet’s love poem.
Some poets of famous love poetry include, Edna St. Vincent Millay, Robert Browning, Elizabeth Browning, John Dunne, Kahlil Gibran, Rainer Maria Rilke, and Pablo Neruda.

8) THE GIFT OF TOUCH: Give the gift of touch by giving your partner a one or two-hour massage. Set the room with a scented candle and meditative, relaxing music. Use sensuous oil and make sure you get every single spot of your lover: from the earlobes to between the toes.



9) BUBBLE BATHS ARE STILL FUN: Take a long, sensuous bubble bath with your lover. Be sure to set the ambience: light a candle or two (or twenty ) and have some romantic music playing; put some lavender, jasmine or any favorite essential oil in the bath.

You might decide to forgo the bubbles and use rose petals instead. Once you’re in the tub, serve your lover: Wash your lover’s hair and entire body, and, well, use your imagination!

10) WRITE A LONG LOVE LETTER: Nothing says, “I love you,” quite like a romantic love letter.  Write a long, expressive love letter to your lover on a beautiful piece of stationery. You might spray your perfume on the paper. Women, not only sign it with your name, but with a kiss wearing your favorite lipstick. Mail it a few days before Valentine’s Day so that your lover receives it on time, but write on it, “Don’t Open Until Valentine’s Day.

11) MAKE A LOVE LIST: Using beautiful paper, list all of the things that you love about your lover, all that you appreciate, even the little things. Consider framing it.

Although I’m not dissing ANY of the traditional gift ideas, the gifts people remember most are the gifts that require a true investment from the giver.  They require thought, creativity, planning, and a lot of heart, and they will speak more deeply to your lover’s heart than dinner and a box of chocolates.

Here’s to your best Valentine’s Day ever!

Love and blessings,

Pamela

How to Live an Extraordinary Life

On New Year’s Day my husband and I  were enjoying the quiet after the wonderful blitz of family holiday company.  We were thinking about our goals and how we would begin some new projects we’ve been talking about for a while.  During this conversation, my husband said something that struck me as truly important to share with you.  He said, “It takes considerable effort and dedication to live an extraordinary life.”

Since then, I have been thinking about what it really means to live an extraordinary life and how we can accomplish that.  I think above all it requires living consciously—consciously choosing how we spend our time so that we are moving toward fulfilling our dreams, living in alignment with our values and living with tremendous joy and peace in our lives.As humans we are such creatures of habit that if we are not diligent, we will focus on all the wrong things, and one day, we’ll be wondering why we didn’t do this and why we didn’t do that.

A friend of mine who once worked with the dying said something we’ve probably all heard, that patients he talked with on their deathbeds never spoke about regretting things they’d done; they only spoke about regretting things they didn’t do.

So it seems critical to take an inventory of our lives.  I ask all of you to reflect on these questions:

What are your dreams?

What do you really want to accomplish in your life?

What is it that you value most in life?

Where do you want to be in five years?  ten years?

What brings you the most joy and peace?

Being very clear about what you want, what you value and what your dreams are is important.  In the Law of Attraction work it’s well known that conscious creating begins with knowing what you want.

After reviewing your dreams and values, take a close look at how you’re spending your time to determine if you’re actually living up to those dreams.  Are you making conscious choices every day that bring you a little closer to fulfilling your dreams, or are you merely meeting what you have come to imagine are your daily obligations?  Have you actually thought about what you value in life and then consciously aligned your life with those values?  Are you planning to someday get to those things that will truly bring you peace and joy, or do you do things every day that bring you peace and joy now?  How rarely do we sit in quiet reflection pondering how we spend our most precious resource, which is our time.

After you’re clear on the above questions, I would like to invite all of you now to ask yourselves the questions that my husband and I asked ourselves this New Year’s day:

What one thing that could I begin doing consistently that would bring me closer to fulfilling one of my dreams?

What is the most important thing that I can begin today to live my life more in alignment with what I value most?

What one thing can I begin to do that would bring me more joy and peace right now?

Remember that these don’t have to be huge steps.  One of our joint steps that we felt would bring us more joy was to get ourselves out in nature more.  We set the intention of doing a camping trip or major outdoor adventure each month.  I also committed to completing one painting every other month over the next year.

Remember that the action steps you decide to take should be specific and you should indicate by when you want to accomplish them.  That’s the only way you know if you are achieving what you want.  For example, it’s better to say, “I’m going to complete one painting every other month,” rather than, “I’m going to paint more.”

As my husband said, it does take some discipline, but so does anything worth having.  If you take these questions to heart and spend some quiet time reflecting on them, and then consciously decide to do just three things, imagine the difference it will make in your life.  It’s important to do this a few times a year as our dreams can change, along with what we value most and what brings us joy.

If you make this process of reflection, re-evaluation and commitment a quarterly practice, imagine what you can accomplish in just one year.  When you make the commitment to make ‘someday’ now and everyday, there is a cumulative effect that happens, propelling you toward your dreams so that you actually reach them.  And when you know what you value and live in alignment with those values, and do what brings you joy, your life will be full of meaning for you.  You will be living an authentic life that is not based on other people’s “shoulds” or society’s expectations.  Your life will be your own conscious joyful and peaceful creation.  And that sounds like an extraordinary life!

Until next week, here’s a toast to you and your extraordinary life!

Love and blessings,

Pamela


The Time For Gratitude is Every Moment

Thanksgiving was a time for us to take stock of our blessings and all that we are grateful for in our lives.  I invite you to take time again to open your heart and truly appreciate all the ways in which you are blessed.   And I invite you to decide right now on this beautiful November day that a heart full of gratitude is the way to live each day of your life.

We spend so much energy focusing on what’s wrong, what could be better and what we don’t like.  We do this constant critical analysis out of habit, and some of us are wired in such a way to constantly see what can be better about just about anything.  I am guilty of this kind of wiring myself and have to be conscious to stay out of that critical mode.  Being conscious of our state of mind so that we can live as consciously as we can is our most important goal.  For each moment we live consciously, we have a choice of what we want to focus on, who we want to be, and how we want to respond.

If we live in a state of gratitude for all that we have to be thankful for, the universe responds with more for us to be thankful for.  And even when the things seem difficult, unfair, or too challenging, we can still be grateful.  Do we ever take the time to thank our bodies for all that it does do for us without our ever having to ask?  Do we thank God or Spirit for the sun that rises each day?  Do we think to thank our husbands, wives, lovers, friends, children for all the richness they bring into our lives every day?

We can choose to see our challenges too as opportunities to be brave, strong, persevering, and thankful.  If for nothing else, we can always be thankful for being human and having a choice.  How wonderful that we have the ability to choose how we want to show up in any and every situation.  I love the quotation–I believe it’s from Buddhism– “Pain is inevitable, suffering is a choice.” This is our greatest challenge, of course:  who we will choose to be when things are difficult, when we don’t get what we want or we get what we don’t want?  If we can remember to stay conscious, then we can choose to keep our heart open and be in gratitude, thankful for what is good, sweet and right in our lives, and then we can bear the difficult without suffering.

This Thanksgiving I hope you all had a heart of thankfulness for all your blessings.  Now I invite you to make time every single day to be in gratitude for all that you have to be thankful for.  And no matter what is happening in your life, be conscious of how you are showing up.  Make it your priority to live in your heart and remember what is good in your world.  Hold onto the vision of what you do want, and in consciousness, be appreciative of it even before you see it in physical form.  This is what manifesting is all about:  being conscious of what you’re focusing on and giving yourself to.  Give yourself only to what it is that truly pleases you, that is your heart’s desire.  Let everything else be there as an invitation to show the universe who you really are and what you are willing to have.

Love and blessings,

Pamela
PS  Hi there, Thank you for reading! This work is my heart, and I am thankful for you. Your appreciation of my work means the world to me.  Remember, if there’s ever a topic you would like to have me write about, just send me an email at pamela@empoweringlove.com.

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