Pamela Ramey-Tatum

This stuff really works

I have been so engrossed in living life and living passionately that I haven’t sent out a newsletter in some time. I want to share with you my own manifestation story to inspire you to follow your heart and your dreams.

Many of you know how much I love to paint. Well it seemed the more energy I put into teaching my Law of Attraction courses, the more my art took off. Applying all the techniques I teach is very powerful: this stuff really works! I have sold more paintings since November than I did the previous three years combined!

So as my art has taken off, I have been spending more time on my art and facilitating online programs rather than teaching the live courses that I love so much but that take so much time and energy.

It has meant so much to me to see my own dream of being an artist manifest. I have always been a teacher. That was easy for me. But even though I have always been artistic, I had many doubts that I was an artist or could actually be a working artist. l had lots of doubts along the way.

I think living my dream teaching Law of Attraction really helped me because as I teach the concepts and techniques, I am constantly reminded to practice what I teach. It has always been important to me to live my own teachings as best I can. How can i expect my students to do things if I’m not willing to be disciplined myself.

So it’s through this work, applying all that I know about LOA, that I have been able to manifest my artistic vision. I am thrilled to say that this stuff really works!

So if you have a dream you’re trying to manifest, whether it be attracting the love of your life or anything else, I invite you to use the LOA techniques for 90 days and watch how your life begins to change. Keep going after the 90 days! And of course that will be easy since you will be convinced at that point that this DOES work to change your reality.

I would invite you also to invest in one of my programs; this will give you many LOA secrets and tips to apply every day to speed up the process. If you invest in yourself and practice the techniques I teach in these programs, you will see shifts in your life as the universe shifts to correspond to the new you.

I am available for one-on-one coaching and my courses are all available online. You can purchase the course by itself or along with coaching. I would love to work with you and help you manifest your dreams, too.

Love and blessings to you all and thank you all for appreciating the work I do. It is dear to my heart and so are you all!

Pamela

Loving Yourself–Imperfections and All

“If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.”

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.
– Louise L. Hay.

What does loving ourselves have to do with the Law of Attraction?  Everything, really, if we want love, success and happiness in our lives, it all starts with loving who we are.   This has been said so many times it has almost lost meaning for us.  But it is true that we must be able to find love within and for ourselves if we are to find love with another, have great relationships with our friends and family, and even to find ourselves in careers we love.  Everything really starts with loving who we are.

We have been so bombarded with media images of what’s sexy and attractive and what success means, that most of us at some level long to be something other than who we are.  We have been conditioned to see our imperfections and how we don’t measure up to the rich and famous.  This can become problematic when people secretly dislike themselves as they long for the perfect figure, perfect hair, perfect career, or perfect whatever.  Longing to be someone else or have a different life keeps us stuck where we are and unhappy.  Nothing positive can happen from this place.  However,  if we release all the desires to be someone else and love and accept who we are, we give ourselves the opportunity to blossom.

Acceptance and loving who we are allows us a safe environment for changing and growing.  We can’t change or grow from a negative, self loathing place or even a longing place.  We have to accept and love and then allow ourselves to become more of who we really are.  It’s like a child who is loved and nurtured can grow and blossom beautifully, but one who is constantly criticized and scolded shuts down and internalizes that anger and frustration at not being good enough.

As we struggle to love ourselves, it helps to grasp that it is our imperfections that make us perfect.  You are perfectly YOU, like no one else ever created.

I read an article about famous photographer who has photographed many of the world’s most famous beauties, including Marilyn Monroe and Sophia Loren.  He said that the most beautiful discovery he made when he photographed these beauties was realizing their imperfections.  That is what he would try to capture on film, their imperfections and vulnerability.  He did not try to give the illusion of perfection.  Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all learn to see our imperfections as our most beautiful parts!  What a concept.

My spiritual teacher Yogi Bhajan used to say, “The difference between you and me is that I love my faults.”  He said that we should not run from those parts of ourselves but learn to appreciate them.  It is only through acceptance and genuine appreciation that we can ever let go of something in ourselves that we wish to change.  As the adage states: “That which we resist persists.”  It is through appreciating all parts of ourselves that we can have total self love and thus really be open to loving another.  As another teacher of mine said once when I was studying acting, “The critic can never be creative.”  It’s good to remember that when we are busy criticizing ourselves, we are also stifling our creative energy, whether it’s energy for a project or for our lover or partner.

For the next week, try to find the beauty in your imperfections.  Try to find the parts of you that are flawed and see how they make you uniquely and perfectly you, vulnerable and beautiful.  See how loving these parts of yourself allow you to be a better lover and more accepting of your partner, your friends, everyone.  You may also notice how you become more attractive to others as you love and accept yourself.

I would love to hear from you about your struggle or your successes in this endeavor to love yourself, warts and all.   Leave a comment.

Have a wonderful week!

Love and blessings~

Pamela

Say, “I Love You,” with a Little More Heart This Valentine’s Day!

Valentine’s Day is rapidly approaching. It’s best not to wait until the last minute to decide what to do for your special someone. Otherwise, you’ll end up doing the same old thing. Not that there’s anything wrong with the standard: dinner, flowers, card and chocolates. But why not put a little more heart into it and make your loved one feel extra special and adored? Remember, it’s the gifts that require time and imagination and that come from the heart that say the most. Following are some ideas that are simple and cost very little, but they say so much because they require more from you besides your money; they require your whole heart–or at least a little piece of it!

1) SURPRISE DATE: Give your lover a card and state that you’ve planned a surprise date, something they will know nothing about except how to dress. You plan everything and do all the work. If you feel like really making a statement commit to planning a surprise date for your love once a month for the entire year! Try to make the dates something unique that you and your lover haven’t experienced before or at least something very special. Ideas: an elaborate picnic in a special location; an overnight trip to a town you haven’t been to before; the opera; his/her favorite performer in concert; a picnic at sunset on a secluded beach; a couple’s workshop. The ideas are endless. A wonderful idea is to give each other this gift and take turns; one month you plan everything and the next month your partner does. You can even blindfold your partner while driving to the destination!

2) LOVE NOTES: Buy a pretty box and put it by your lover’s bedside. Give a card to your lover that says your gift will be 365 love notes, one each day for the next year. Find a package of assorted scraps of beautiful paper in the scrapbook section of your local craft store or go to a scrapbook specialty store. Provo Craft has a large package for under $15 called, “Paper Palette: Hand Crafted Paper by Artisans,” which is a wonderful assortment of romantic paper in various sizes. These so called “scraps” are the perfect for love notes and letters. Also be sure to use colored gel pens of various colors to pen your love letters. Then each night for the entire year, put a love note in the box. Your partner will “check the mail” each night in anticipation. What a treat to read your sweet, loving, sexy, creative love note on a different kind of paper each night. I did this for my husband year before last, and I have to say it became a wonderful bedtime ritual. He even began writing love notes to me and placing them on my pillow! It’s now become a fun thing we do to surprise each other now and then. But it is wonderful to do it every day for a year. Even if it’s after a squabble, it’s a great opportunity to apologize and say, “I love you,” and it insures that you don’t go to bed angry.

3) LOVE LETTER: Nothing says, “I love you,” quite like a romantic love letter. Write a long, expressive love letter to your lover on a beautiful piece of stationery. You might sprat your perfume on the paper. Women, not only sign it with your name, but with a kiss wearing your favorite lipstick. Mail it a few days before Valentine’s Day so that your lover receives it on time, but write on it, “Don’t Open Until Valentine’s Day.”

4) FLOWERS: Give the gift of one beautiful flower for your lover every day for 365 days. If this seems like too big of a big commitment, try doing it for just do it for one month. Or perhaps on the 14th of each month this year, you could bring your lover a beautiful bouquet.

5) HOMEMADE CARD: Make a homemade Valentine. Buy romantic paper, find some gold hearts, ribbon or lace. Use gel pens, paints or colored pencils. Use your imagination and have fun!

6) SERENADE: Make a tape singing a love song to your lover. You can find a local studio that will record it for you and even provide you with the music. OR just sing a cappella and do it at home.

7) POETRY: Compose a poem for your lover on beautiful paper. You can even write it in calligraphy. (Or, you can cheat and use stencils or pens that give the look of calligraphy.) Another idea is to use your computer and print it out with fancy type. You can even frame it. If you’re not much of a writer, try using a famous poet’s love poem. Some poets of famous love poetry include, Edna St. Vincent Millay, Robert Browning, Elizabeth Browning, John Dunne, Kahlil Gibran, Rainer Maria Rilke, and Pablo Neruda

8) TOUCH:  Give the gift of touch by giving your partner a one or two-hour massage. Set the room with a scented candle and meditative, relaxing music. Use sensuous oil and make sure you get every single spot of your lover: from the earlobes to between the toes.

9) BUBBLE BATH: Take a long, sensuous bubble bath with your lover. Be sure to set the ambience: light a candle or two (or twenty ) and have some romantic music playing; put some lavender, jasmine or any favorite essential oil in the bath. You might decide to forgo the bubbles and use rose petals instead. Once you’re in the tub, serve your lover: Wash your lover’s hair and entire body, and, well, use your imagination! 10) COLLAGE: Take photos from the last year and make a collage. Collecting your favorite memories into a collage, framing and hanging it doesn’t take that much time but think of the joy that will be added to your lives every time you look at it. Your lover will appreciate the gift all through the year.

11) MAKE A LIST: Using beautiful paper, list all of the things that you love about your lover, all that you appreciate, even the little things. Consider framing it.

The gifts people remember most are those given from the heart. They aren’t necessarily the most expensive, but they require the most investment from the giver. Gifts that require thought, creativity, planning; gifts that last all year; and things made by you speak a lot more deeply to your lover’s heart than dinner and a box of chocolates. And remember, the most important thing is to be romantic and have fun!

Here’s to you having the best Valentine’s Day ever!

A New Year, A New Life, A New YOU!

The whole of creation exists in you, and it is your destiny to become increasingly aware of its infinite wonders and to experience ever greater and grander portions of it. ~Goddard Neville

HAPPY 2013:  May this be your best year yet!

It’s a new year and for most of us, this is a time for reflection and making changes that will bring us closer to the things we most desire. You may want to attract the perfect job or your soulmate; or you may be wishing the partner you were with would turn into your soulmate; or maybe you are hoping this will be the year your business finally takes off.

Most people go through life wanting things to be better but not sure how to improve them.  And they believe that everything good or bad happens to them as a result of outer causes, coincidence, or chance.  Personally, I studied yoga, meditated on mountaintops, lived in India, and traveled the globe, hoping to find answers that would allow me to have the life I wanted.  Finally, I came back home to central Florida where I embarked on a long journey studying the Law of Attraction. This was the most important work of my life as it finally allowed me to master the techniques of changing my life through changing my consciousness.  Of course I had been working on myself, but I was working on myself because I thought I was broken, unworthy, needed to be “fixed.”  What I learned in the LOA work would change the course of my life forever.

I learned that I wasn’t lacking anything but the knowledge of how to be set free from my own self-limiting beliefs.  And the first thing I learned and the most fundamental concept everyone has to accept to use the LOA masterfully in their life is that to change your life, the only thing you have to change is yourself–AND you have to change yourself at the level of consciousness.  We can gain control of our happiness only when we understand and fully accept that there is nothing out in the world causing us to experience what we do, that everything comes to us from our own consciousness, and is consented to by us, believed by us, and made manifest by us.

Once we accept we are responsible for creating our reality, we can begin to explore our own consciousness, what we believe and what we identify with, so that we can begin to change our thinking, our entire thought patterns, and thus our consciousness.  By changing our consciousness, we can actually become a new version of ourselves, allowing the old self to die, so that the new self can be born.

If you would like to study with me, to be a part of a community of people–live or online–interested in becoming the best version of themselves they can imagine, join me in January for my LOA Foundations Course.  This will be the beginning of a beautiful journey for you, to awaken to who you really are and create the life that your heart desires.  It’s all available to you if you commit to learning the secrets to unleashing the power in your own consciousness.

Love and blessings,

Pamela

Pamela is a life/relationship/LOA coach, teacher, speaker and is founder of the Law of Attraction Learning Center and Empowering Love.  Call Pamela at 407-733-6282 or visit her website at www.LOALC.com to register or for more information on her course that will begin on Thursday, January 24, 2013

Begin at the end

A coach that I worked with a few years ago encouraged me to make a list of 25 things I had accomplished in the past year.  It was interesting that the first things that came to my mind were things I hadn’t finished or even started.  But as I got quiet and really thought about the year, many things I had accomplished began to surface.

I had finished a coaching program, designed my website, started my newsletter and gone on an amazing spiritual retreat with my husband.  Once I began to look at what I had accomplished, it was easy to see more.  I also had things on my list like, cultivating my friendships, taking sailing classes and chartering a sailboat in the Caribbean.  I realized that our accomplishments in life are about more than our to-do list.  Our accomplishments also include taking the time to love people and have fun.  Sometimes our most important accomplishments are those that were not on our goal list at the first of the year.  Life is much more organic and to experience it fully, we must we open to Divine Guidance.

Now, at the end of each year, I take the time to do this exercise.  Then I take the time to meditate on my vision for the coming year.  I try to imagine and feel those things I know I want to accomplish.  Then I let myself be open to that Divine Guidance, to see what might come to me that I hadn’t already been planning.  And finally as I begin to live the year, I let the Divine or whatever we want to call the creative energy that so magically orchestrates this universe, guide me so that ultimately, I am led by something greater than my own individual vision.  When we co-create with the Divine, our lives open up in ways that we might not have ever dreamed of on our own.

With all your final to-do lists for the holiday, find some time before the new year to make your list of the 25 things you accomplished in 2012.  Acknowledge yourself for things big and small; sometimes our greatest accomplishments are all the small things that add up.   Then it will be time to start thinking about what the new year brings.

For me, I see myself continuing to evolve my live and online LOA and coaching programs.  And to evolve in my new (ad)venture with my husband of helping people through combining neurofeedback and LOA coaching.  For my art this year, my goal also is to paint a lot and from a deep and joyful place.

Happy Holidays everyone and I hope this year brings you all the love and joy your hearts can hold!

Love and blessings~

Pamela

 

 

Trusing Your Inner Guidance

In my Law of Attraction courses, I teach a lot about learning to trust that everything is on track for our receiving what we most want.   The secret to mastering trust in the unfolding of our lives comes from learning to trust ourselves.  To learn to trust ourselves, we have to have a practice that allows us to tune in, to quiet our mind enough so that we can actually hear our inner guidance.   After we hear it, then we must trust what we receive. When we disregard that voice inside that knows, we are not trusting ourselves.

I see it so often in my work: people know but they don’t listen. They ask, “Should I marry this man?  I’m just not sure.”  Or “Should I take this job?” The answer is in the asking.  There must be a voice saying, “no”, or they wouldn’t be questioning moving forward in the relationship or the job.  If we are saying YES to a partner, it should be a resounding yes that we say with all our heart and soul, not a “yes” tinged with hesitancy that is really a “no” that we won’t allow ourselves to acknowledge.  There is always that little voice inside you that knows.  When we get in confusion about anything, it’s because we are not tuned into that voice.  Sometimes it’s just that we really don’t want to acknowledge the truth that we know.  This is the denial of our inner voice.   Other times it may be that we just won’t be quiet enough to hear it.

Our sixth sense is real, and can naturally perceive and know things that our logical minds cannot.  It is that aspect of your soul that is connected to the Field, the Divine, that is privy to all sorts of information and resources that you in your particle self are not.  This voice will guide you to your heart’s desire, it will forewarn you, but you can only hear it if you are taking the time to listen.

The key is to practice meditation or quiet reflective time daily to tune into that guidance on a regular basis and then listen to it every time.  Using a heart meditation is very effective since being in our heart makes us more connected and more open to receive guidance.  The more you practice meditation and/or quiet reflection, the easier it will be to tune in and receive guidance not just while you’re in meditation but all the time.  And the more you learn to trust your inner voice and guidance, the clearer the messages from your intuitive self become.

A SIMPLE HEART MEDITATION YOU CAN USE TO OPEN YOUR HEART:

As you sit to meditate focus on the breath.  Inhale and exhale deeply for a few breaths.  Allow your shoulders to relax away from your ears.  Relax your jaw and your tongue.  Start to breath imagining the breath coming in through the third chakra, located at the upper abdomen (solar plexus) and feel any tension there.  Exhale, imagining the breath coming out throught the heart chakra–located in the center of the breast bone–opening the heart.  Keep that focus on the breath, inhaling each time feeling any tension in your third chakra and on the exhale, releasing the tension and imagining the heart chakra opening more and more with each exhale.  As you do this meditation you should be able to open your heart and get into a state of love and compassion.  Once you’re in this state, allow answers and guidance to emerge naturally.  You may, if you wish, begin your meditation by asking for guidance if there is something specific you are wanting to be clear about.

In my own life, I was guided to my husband, the love of my life, because I asked, “What’s next?” when I was closing my business years ago.  The answer was “medical sales,” something I had no background in at all.  But I knew to listen to the guidance and went onto Career Builder applied for four jobs, interviewed for three, got job offers from two, one of which was my husband, who knew immediately I was the love of his life.  We had only had one phone conversation and he knew that he had to hire me.  His assistant tried to get him to consider the many applicants with medical background.  But he interviewed no one else for the position.  He was attuned and listening to his inner guidance too.  Within two months of working together, we were together!   It was not about “the job” as I only did that for a short time before I began my coaching training.  It was about the Divine leading both of us to each other.

You will be astounded at how powerful it is and what you can manifest with effortless effort when you live this way.  It is this that truly allows us to listen and hear our inner voice and guidance.  If you regularly sit with this simple meditation, you will become attuned to all sorts of information that you would otherwise miss.  You will at times not know exactly why you have to a particular place or avoid a particular person.  You will just know.  When we live attuned to our inner voice and trusting our inner guidance, everything becomes easier.  We can more easily attract what we need into our lives and live with more peace and joy.  We stay out of confusion and indecisiveness because we know how to tune in and listen.

My challenge for you is to do this heart meditation every day for a month and watch your connection to your own inner guidance increase.  Watch as you begin to trust your own inner voice more and more.  I guarantee you won’t want to stop after 30 days.

The Field really is on our side; all we have to do is tune in and listen!

Have a wonderful amazing week!

Love and blessings,

Pamela

Important Relationship Tips

There are two parts to this newsletter:  Part One contains tips for people who already have a relationship but are looking for ways to improve it and Part Two is for those who are not in a relationship but want to attract their perfect partner.

PART ONE:  IF YOU ALREADY HAVE A RELATIONSHIP:
If your relationship is one you treasure and are happy you’re in, congratulations!  If you are like me, you are always open to new ideas and ways that you can make your already good relationship great or great relationship even more wonderful.  So here are three simple tips, and I guarantee you that you will improve the quality of your relationship if you do them–or even start with one of them.

1)   Ask yourself very regularly what you could do to improve the quality of your relationship.  Rather than focusing on what you want, what you need, what you aren’t getting enough of, focus on the other person and ask, What can I do to be a better partner, lover, wife, husband, etc.

2)  Every night take a few minutes to imagine anything that represents to you having a wonderful relationship or an even more wonderful relationship if you already have a great one (everything can always be better, right!?).  Just let your imagination go and get into the feelings of having an amazing relationship.  Go to sleep with these thoughts and feelings.

3)  If there are problems–or a problem area–in your relationship–be sure you do tips 1 and 2 also, but also take time each morning to lie in bed just after you wake up and imagine a relationship in which those specifics that you are not happy with do not exist.  Project yourself into the future with your partner and imagine that these things are no longer part of the dynamic.  Let your imagination go and get into the feelings of those negatives no longer being there.  How does it feel?  Relish in it.  Get lost in the feelings of happiness at being in a relationship that has more of what you want and no longer has the hurtful or frustrating parts.

IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP

In a culture where we’ve been spoon fed instant gratification, it’s easy to want to find a partner quickly, too.  People search the Internet, attend networking groups, and even go to the supermarket in search for Mr./Ms Right.  What most people don’t realize is that there is a way to have that instant gratification of the perfect partner right now, without ever logging on to the Internet or searching anywhere–except inside their own heart.

Here are three tips to help you in manifesting your perfect partner.

1)  Be willing to accept the primary principle of the Law of Attraction, which is very simply that you can have anything you want as long as you have to already have it. It’s a paradox like everything that seems to be profoundly true about our universe.  But there is a way to already have it:  you have to have it in consciousness.   So here’s what you can do:  Imagine that you have the perfect partner and what that would feel like.  Really get lost in how that would feel and what that would look like.  Then, keep your focus and concern on your own inner world, imagining that you do already have it.  
Live from this place.  (BTW: I teach many techniques about HOW to do this in my courses.)

2)  Stop Looking!  I recently read a quotation somewhere that said, “I never met anyone who found their perfect partner when they were looking.”  What this really implies is that you have to release your grip on your desire.  Concern yourself with YOU.  Work on yourself and making yourself the very best you can be.  Completely release the “looking” part; leave that up to the Universe.  Know that the Field/Universe/God will bring you your perfect partner in perfect time, while at the same time, feeling it is already done (that was Tip #1, right!?).

3)  Fall in love with yourself and your life; have a love affair with yourself.  Do the things that bring you joy.  When you are in a state of love and joy, that’s what you attract.

Good luck with these.  Let me know your thoughts by posting a comment.  Or if you have other things that have worked for you, I would love to hear them.  Share them below in the comments.  And if you have any questions, post those, too.  I am happy to answer them–or try to anyways!

Have a wonderful amazing week.

Love and blessings,
Pamela

Are you trusting yourself? Radical Self-Trust Part 2

“This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meaness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain all!  Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.  Be grateful for whomever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.” ~Rumi

Last week I wrote about radical self-trust in terms of learning to trust the voice and the guidance within. Trusting yourself really is an essential part of radical responsibility.  

The other important aspect of radical self-trust is trusting that everything that shows up in our lives is there to inform us, to teach us, and to help move us toward more of who we really are. 

How different would our lives be if we would just embrace our worries, doubts, fears and frustrations as teachers there to inform us of what our next step is?  If we listen to what they are saying to us rather than trying to banish them, we can then learn from them, thank them and release them, and move into the next best version of ourselves.  This is so much easier than fighting with them and trying to exile them.  

When we radically trust ourselves, we see every experience in our lives an important part of the natural unfolding of ourselves toward our highest good.  The truth is that our most painful experiences are often the most necessary in terms of our learning and growing toward the ultimate fulfillment of who we really are.

Take the time to look to any worries, fears, or doubts and any painful experience as messengers with important information.   Sit with them in meditation, ask your higher self for guidance and allow yourself to receive what you need from whatever you’re going through.  Any psychological state that we don’t want to be in has its gift if we simply befriend it rather than pushing it away.  Staying receptive and befriending whatever we’re feeling, will allow us to hear what it has to say.  Only then can we release it and move forward with the insight we have gained.

Why not take a vow of radical self-trust right now?  Decide to have faith in all of your experiences and trust even the painful states of mind you may find yourself in.  Befriend all that comes your way as a beloved teacher.  From this place of radical self-trust, you will find that you can move through anything more quickly, easily and gracefully.  And we gain so much more from accepting rather than fighting whatever it is that shows up in our lives.

Love and blessings,

Pamela

Radical Self Trust

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” Goethe


“When I’m trusting and being myself… everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily, often miraculously. ~Shakti Gawain

Today’s topic is one dear to my heart because it took me so many years to get to the point of trusting myself–and even now, some days I revert back to trusting others over myself.  I’ve written before about taking radical responsibility for our lives–how everything that shows up is revealing who we are being in the world.  These two–radical responsibility and radical self trust are intimately connected.  When we take radical responsibility for everything that shows up in our experience, we also must trust ourselves completely.  

One of my students asked the other night how we can distinguish between our higher self speaking to us during meditation and some other voice.  Another student then offered that when she used to run in marathon training, she would get into a zone–not unlike meditation–and all sorts of answers to various “problems” in her life would come to her.  And she would recognize these things as exactly what she needed.

This student’s experience is a great example of how information can come to us when we quiet our mind in some form of meditation.  Her experience also suggests that when we get information from our Higher Self in meditation or in everyday life, we will often recognize it as such.  But that is not always the case.  Sometimes what comes to us may make no logical sense to us at all, but we just have to trust that if it came during meditation and we were looking for an answer, it is coming from our Higher Self.  “Ask and thou shalt receive.”

When we receive information during meditation and when we are asking form guidance, we need to follow it–even if it seems crazy to our logical mind.  Years ago when I was closing my business and not sure of my “next step,” I asked for guidance to come to me during my morning meditation and I got a very specific answer: “Medical Sales.”  I looked upward and asked, “Say WHAT?”  I had no medical background and had in fact never considered a career in any medical field.  However, I had learned to trust what comes in meditation as indeed information from the Divine or my Higher Self (whatever one wishes to call it).

It was through listening to that information that I applied for a job with the man who is now my husband.  I worked with him for a couple of years–it was not really “the job” that my Higher Self was leading me to however–it was something much greater–my soul mate and the love of my life.

Start today to ask your Higher Self for guidance. Before you sit down to meditate or go on that five mile run, ask that you receive what you need to know regarding whatever you’re struggling with or whatever you need a little guidance on.
And then listen and trust what comes.

There is another important component of Radical Self Trust, so more next week on this important topic.

Until then, love your self and your life, every moment!

Love and blessings,

Pamela

Problems Are Not Really Problems But Opportunities

In the Law of Attraction, there is a saying that “the problem and the solution are the same thing.”And when we resist anything, we will soon find ourselves feeling as though we have a problem. But if we accept the notion that the problem and the solution are essentially the same thing, we can stop resisting when we perceive a problem and open ourselves up to learn from it instead.  Becasue the truth is that when we resist the problem, we also resist the solution.
 
We could even reframe our “so-called” problems as a “challenges” or “as opportunities to learn and grow.”  We can write this off as just a semantic shift, but it has been proven that the language we use shapes our lives and defines aspects of our culture.  So shifting our language, does shift our perception, beliefs and hence our reality.  When we take this softer stance, we allow the solution to reveal itself to us as effortlessly as we open our eyes from a dream.
From the moment a situation presents itself that poses as a “problem,” decide that it’s not a problem but an opportunity to hear the message, the lesson, something important that the Universe is revealing to you.  So instead of wanting to “get rid of it,” accept it, sit down with it, pay attention to it in the way you would pay attention to a wonderful teacher.  Become open and teachable.  You can only do this if you are not being willful, resistant or denying the challenge.
Six Simple Steps for Understanding the Message and Discovering the Solution to any challenge:

TRY THIS FOR ANY “CHALLENGE” THAT SHOWS UP
1)  Face the situation. Accept it as it is. Don’t resist it. (This does not imply you like it or want it to continue.)
2)  Be still and suspend all judgments and conclusions
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3) Open yourself up to non-local information about the problem.  This comes from your Higher Self and the Field.  Just be open to receive.
4) Refrain from going into fear, blame or anger (either at yourself or anyone else), doubt or anything else that you don’t want to feel.
5) Allow yourself to be totally open to seeing how this situation actually reveals to you some important information you wouldn’t have discovered without it.
6) Surrender to the Solution.  How to proceed or handle this challenge should now be clear to you.
Be patient.  After doing this process, if you feel you haven’t received the “solution,” know that you did receive the information and then release all concern about it, resting in the knowledge that you DO know.  Then as the next day or so unfolds, the solution will be clear to you.
Use this six-step process for any “challenge” that comes up and you will see how easily the insights come when you get friendly with your challenges rather than resisting them.  And in this friendliness comes the seamless shift to discovery and resolution.
Remember it doesn’t have to be a monumental challenge either.   Start practicing with the small stuff and then you’ll be able to handle the big stuff with equal ease.
Good luck and let me know how this works for you after you try this technique.  Share your comment on this in the omments section below.

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